What you do in your house is worth as much as if you did it up in heaven for our Lord God. We should accustom ourselves to think of our position and work as sacred and well-pleasing to God, not on account of the position and work, but on account of the word and faith from which the obedience and the work flow. ~ Martin Luther

Monday, January 18, 2010

Multitude Monday: The HAVE NOTS

Sitting here all by my lonesome, in the darkness of before dawn and in the quiet of slumbering children: I had to wave my husband off for ANOTHER week away. I barely made it through two weeks ago and so it seems pretty much impossible to endure another week as a single Mama. So I have sat, having a little pity party on me for the last few minutes and toying with the idea of just not participating in Multitude Monday since there seemed so little to be thankful for....or at least, too hard to search for.

A major have-not this week is my husband. And that just happens to be the worst have-not EVER. But that got me to thinking about all the other have-nots that I don't have.

And it occurred to me: sometimes, Have-NOT's are reason enough to be thankful.

So my gratitude list this week is for that which I DON'T have.....and here goes.


  • the job of unearthing buried bodies in a devastated land
  • the mourning of my husband, mother, child, friend
  • the torture and fear of my child stolen from me or lost
  • a child on the brink of death or in the midst of life-threatening conditions
  • the taste of concrete powder in my mouth and muddying my eyes
  • to worry about where food will come to feed my children
  • a home, destroyed
  • to sleep outside, with no protection
  • chaos and confusion at every turn
  • an insatiable thirst-but no water anywhere
  • to feel turmoil, sadness and despair from the moment I wake up to the time my eyes force themselves closed.
These are the things that people in Haiti have been dealing with for almost a week.


  • a husband who must come home and tearfully explain how he lost his job
  • bills coming in which we can not pay
  • to wonder where the money will come from to buy food or pay rent
  • to seek outside work to help my husband support our family
  • to sell all that we own in order to make ends meet
  • to hit the pavement in search of too-few jobs available
  • the need to rush to find somewhere to live
  • to depend on the support of soup kitchens or charities
  • to go to sleep desperate and wake up the same
These are the things many people throughout our nation are dealing with.

I Have NOT::

  • the pain of a husband with wandering eyes
  • the struggles of a broken marriage
  • the responsibility of kissing my child each night, wondering if he will live to see tomorrow or succumb to his cancer
  • a car broken down
  • to deal with rebellious teenagers
  • the need for a wheelchair
  • to clean out what is left of a home, burned down
  • blindness or deafness or brain malfunctions to make life more difficult
These are all things that are happening to friends of mine.

On this quiet, lonely Monday morning....I am thankful for all that I DON'T have.

Thank you, Lord.

Gifts numbered 301 to 328 blessedly UNaccounted for.

What are YOU thankful for????

holy experience


Jenny said...

What beautiful pictures. My heart is heavy for the people of Haiti as well. I enjoyed reading your list. Blessings...

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this much needed reminder as my husband left at 4 am through Wed at least. I can feel lonely without him as I care for our five children.

Riahli said...

Great reminders. Often what we do not have is a good thing. Some times I have to remind myself that what I do have is more then enough, even when times seem tough to me in our family. I am reminded that I need to do more for others.

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Bonnie said...

Thought provoking, in a very good way. @~~>~~~

Donna said...

Thanks for the reminder.

Jerelene said...

Hi Rebecca...
What a beautiful post...I love the have nots....what a wonderful way of thinking...
Sorry I've not been by to say hello..but I had surgery in December and have not been on much. I have missed you though! And now I hear that you are expecting!! What a beautiful blessing!!! Congratulations and big hugs to you :):):)
Love, Jerelene

Kathy said...

Beautiful ;) I've been so focused on Haiti - the first night I got into my cozy bed and burst into tears as I realised how many tens of thousand suddenly - in the blink of an eye - had NO bed... and how very, very blessed I am!